Golden Tip No. 30: Don’t Let Fear Sabotage You
Golden Guide Career Advice is a series from the 蹤獲扦夥厙 in partnership with Lydia Lazar, author of Dean Lazars Golden Guide: Pragmatic Career Advice for Smart Young People. A new tip in the series will be posted each Tuesdayall tips are available here.
Do you have a career question? Contact Lazar at deardeanlazar@gmail.comthe answer may appear in a future post.
Everyone has insecurities about presenting themselves as an expert, suffering at one time or another from so-called impostor syndrome. It’s important to face the future without fear so you can find the inner strength to face challenges and seize opportunities when they present themselves. Over time, you’ll become more confident as you live and work in the world. As the Nike slogan says, Just Do It.
Impostor syndrome describes an anxious feeling that somehow you do not deserve your success or that you haven’t earned it legitimately due to your own efforts. It feels like everyone is on the verge of discovering you’re a fraud. Some extremely successful people will admit to feeling this anxiety even as they receive the highest awards in their fields.
If you sometimes worry that you’ll be found out, remember that you’re not alone. Be mindful and give yourself a breaktry a few of these strategies for outwitting this confidence-sapping meme.
Fake It
If you find yourself panicking, fake it until you feel confident. Just go ahead and do the thing that you’re worried about doingand over time, you’ll improve.
Risk It
Being wrong is not the same thing as being a fraud. Dont let a mistake define you or hold you back. Taking risks will help you develop your expertisethe more you know, the more confident you’ll become.
Limit Yourself
If you’re asked to give an opinion on something you only know a little bit about, limit yourself to speaking about what you know well. Consider offering a question that can help move the discussion forward, or offer to learn more about the subject.
Collect Praise
When people give you positive feedback, save a record of it. Build up your personal repository of testimonials to revisit on days when you’re feeling low, or to present in job interviews as proof of past accomplishments.
Accept Yourself
If you feel like a fraud because you were given an opportunity that others didnt get, give yourself a break, step back and take stock of the steps you’ve taken to get where you are today.
The Harvard Business Review recently recommended as managing learning-credibility tension. The authors suggested that by turning a psychological flaw into a vital skill, consultantsand the rest of uscan succeed despite or even because we dont know all the answers.
Make good choices going forward, don’t let setbacks beat you down, and celebrate the decisions and actions you’ve taken to bring you to this point. Try not to tie your self-worth entirely to your job or career. Invest in your personal relationships and your connections to other non-vocational enterprises and undertakings.
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For more career tips, read Dean Lazars Golden Guide: Pragmatic Career Advice for Smart Young People, available on and at your local bookstore. Do you have a career question? Contact Lazar at deardeanlazar@gmail.comthe answer may appear in a future post.
Lydia Lazar is founder and president of . She is the former associate dean for recruitment and career services at the University of Chicago Harris School of Public Policy, and previously, dean of international law and policy overseeing international student admissions (LLM) at Chicago-Kent College of Law.